For many of us, amidst the alcohol, family, friends and good cheer which characterize the celebrations for the New Year can be a prolonged sense of emptiness. Whilst everyone is making New Year’s resolutions, and reflecting on where they’d like to be this time next year, there will always be some of us who feel lost, alone and unmotivated. When you aren’t in the right mindset, it can be hard to function at such a time of reflection and hope, but don’t worry, we’ve got you covered!
1.Remember, New Year’s Resolutions don’t happen straight away.
Most of us will have spent New Years Eve getting drunk, high or stoned and so our New Year’s Resolutions aren’t going to start on the first when we can barely drag ourselves out of bed. Give yourself time to settle back down into your routine before you start making plans, and by time, I mean a few days or even weeks if needed. Everyone moves at their own pace!
Re-name resolutions “goals.”
Resolutions is a funny word for the promise we make ourselves, it sounds like as soon as we’ve broken them once, they’re null and void. Try creating goals for yourself, which are long-term, forgiving, and about making lasting change. Rome was not built in a day, and neither are queens.
Accept the January Blues.
Because they’re a real thing. The weather is awful, most of us have months to wait until our next celebration, we’re low on money and feeling the after effects of indulging on food and alcohol, there’s no wonder that most of us feel incredibly low throughout the first few months of the year. Occasionally, you might need a day to yourself, or as LAPP calls it, a mental health sick day. Accept the feelings, and that you’ll get through them, and in the meanwhile:
Take care of yourself.
Getting through the January Blues can be hard, so if you’re feeling low, remember you are worth taking care of. Get enough sleep, shower with your favourite shower gel at least a few times a week, eat vegetables even if they’re just the frozen-to-microwave kind, make hot drinks to keep you warm. Look after yourself like you’d look after a small child.
Don’t put pressure on yourself to “cheer up.”
Everyone’s social media posts would have you believe that their 2017 was full ups and downs (but mainly ups, of course), and they want to “bring on 2018!” But there’s no pressure for you to force positivity if it isn’t there. If 2017 was awful and the most you could do was survive, then nothing will dramatically change on January 1st 2018, and objectively, it’s just another day. A way to try and think positively is to use the idea of ‘goals’ again, plan out long-term changes and ignore the snappy, quick resolutions people seem to be making. You do your best.
The most unrealistic thing to happen on January 1st is for people to declare “New Year, New Me,” because change isn’t instant. Although there’s nothing wrong with setting goals and working hard (there’s a lot right about it, in fact), change is long term, and rarely spontaneous. As for the January Blues which can accompany feeling distant from the celebrations and resolutions, don’t try and push them away, but accept they are there, and look after yourself through them. 2018 is the year of taking care of you.
Written by Katherine Skippon